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Parental Alienation Awareness Organization
Dr. Childress Webinar Notes to share
Dr. Childress stated that the pain the target parent(TP) is experiencing is similar to the pain the child is feeling. The alienating parent (AP) imposes their delusion on the child, therefore becoming a shared dilusional disorder. The AP is dominate in the relationship. A shared dislusion is a false belief despite evidence. The behavior does not present as odd (but it is damaging). The attachment system is disrupted. It is very bad parenting when one disrupts attachments. The child absorbs the mental constructs that are being imposed as well as the AP’s personality disorder. A child presents with a presonality disorder to the TP but it is not a true personality disorder when it is selective, which is an indication of alienation. Alienated child presents well to everyone else BUT TP. The child will have a deep sense of entitlement, a lack of empathy, rage and anger, have a feeling of one parent all good, the other all bad and borderline splitting. Need support of the lega system to get child away from the pathogenic parent. AP have psychological control, they leave there psychological fingerprints on the child. They have motives inauthentic of attachments. Recognizing parental alienation requires early childhood expertise. There is NO EXCUSE not to recognize PA. Counselors need to be competent. The best theory to use is Structural Family Therapy. They focus on boundaries, triangulation, enmeshment, alignments….. If counselors are not competent, they can be reported. Counselors grounded in other theories can further damage the relationship and the child. Counselors need to challenge the child’s false sense of meaning ( like the parent is dangerous when he/she is not….). DO NOT SEEK COUNSELORS FROM NON-DIRECTIVE THERAPY WHICH ACCEPTS THE CHILD’S FALSE CONSTRUCTS, OR BEHAVIOR THERAPISTS, WHO ARE MORE ABOUT CONSEQUENCES, REWARD AND PUNISHMENT. FUNCTIONAL BEHAVIOR ANALYSIS IS OKAY BUT NOT MANY ARE PROFICIENT IN THIS! Narsistic parents present well to counselors. AP’s are narsistic! Let me add that authentically, children love both parents. There are serious attachment issues in PA that need serious attention yesterday.
Did You Know That…
Parental Alienation is a form of Child Abuse?
Parental alienation (or Aggressive Parenting) is a group of behaviors that are amaging to children’s mental and emotional well-being, and can interfere with a relationship of a child and either parent. These behaviors most often accompany high conflict marriages, separation or divorce.
These behaviors whether verbal or non-verbal, cause a child to be mentally manipulated or bullied into believing a loving parent is the cause of all their problems, and/or the enemy, to be feared, hated, disrespected and/or avoided.
Parental alienation and hostile aggressive parenting deprive children of their right to be loved by and showing love for both of their parents. The destructive actions by an
alienating parent or other third person (like another family member, or even a
well meaning mental health care worker) can become abusive to the child – as the
alienating behaviors are disturbing, confusing and often frightening, to the child, and can rob the child of their sense of security and safety leading to maladaptive emotional or psychiatric reactions.
Most people do not know about Parental Alienation and Hostile Aggressive Parenting until they experience it. Parental Alienation Awareness is put forth to help raise awareness about the growth in the problem of targeting children and their relationship in healthy and loving parent/child bond.
We need your help to protect the innocent, …the children. We need your help to educate and make aware to the public the effects of Parental Alienation and Hostile Aggressive Parenting.
If you’ve been affected by Parental Alienation or know someone who has, or are a past victim of a parent who exhibited Hostile Aggressive Parenting, please write and tell us
your story. We will add your story to our letters page for everyone around the world to publish in their local magazines, newspapers, etc. Please remember to keep your story to the telling of the confusion, loss, love, and heartache. Please refrain from excessive anger and verbally assaulting anyone in your letters.
The aim of the Awareness is to make the general public, judges,
police officers, mental health care workers, child protection agencies, lawyers,
as well as friends and family of the targeted children or their parents become
aware of this growing problem.
With awareness comes education and
understanding, and the power to stop the abuse of innocent children caught in
the crossfire of people they love.
This site is hopefully going to help the parents out there who are suffering from being alienated from there children by there ex partners, we need your help as together we can stop this madness!!
Behind every parent denied access to their children there is also an extended family of aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins all being denied access for usually no reason.
We are looking for combined community effort to help bridge the gap, email us to offer support for children estranged from their families during and post separation. Children have a right to their families .
If you are a child or child now adult who has been separated from family and would like to find your family email us, please let us try and help, we can help you connect with professionals, for this is a very emotional process and may not have the desired out come, but never give up!!
We provide a friendly and caring ear. Your safety, privacy and well being are our prime concern.
This site was created by an alienated parent who has felt the pain, in an effort to try and help both the children and the targeted parent, and to help stop or fight the guilty.